Thursday, August 25, 2016

Timeless Truths: Husbands, Who Needs Directions?

Timeless Truths: Husbands, Who Needs Directions?

This is the third in the series of blogs titled: Built 2 Last

“Therefore everyone who hears these words of mine and puts them into practice is like a wise man who built his house on the rock.”
Jesus speaking in Matthew 7:24 [NIV]

Men are reluctant to share their deepest needs because it makes them feel vulnerable.
The best way to improve relationships is by giving to each other.

Let’s start with three relationship-building verses. Practicing these disciplines in a relationship is vital for health and impact.
John 3:16
For God so loved the world He gave . . .
Mark 11:23
…the Son of Man came to serve.
Philippians 2:5
…have the same attitude as Christ…

Wives, do you know?
1. He’s looking for intimacy . . . to be loved.
The Lord God said, “It is not good form the man to be alone. I will make a helper1 suitable2 for him. [Genesis 2:18].
  1. This is the same word used for equal or superior in status.
  2. A support position of authority.

The Needed Response: Patience and partnership.
Jesus came to restore intimacy between God and humans.
Man and wife are equal partners.

Bonus nuggets
  • Men respond more to what they see than to what they hear.
  • Love practiced gets a lot more accomplished than love preached.

Wives, do you know?
2. He’s looking for respect . . . to be valued and appreciated.
Therefore encourage one another and build each other up [1 Thessalonians 5:11].

The Needed Response: Encouragement.
The worst mistake between husband and wife is criticism.

Wives, do you know?
3. He’s looking to lead . . . especially in the home.
This refers to responsibility not bossing.
Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. [Ephesians 5:21-22].
Husbands are responsible for two kinds of leadership: moral and spiritual
Wives, in the same way submit yourselves to your own husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives [1 Peter 3:1].

The Needed Response: Grace (to live with the decisions made) and gratitude (for what he’s trying to do).
Find multiple ways to sow the fruit of the Spirit in the life of your wife.

Bonus nuggets
  • Submission is not a male or female issue. It is a discipleship issue.
  • Submit here means to line up beneath.

Wives, do you know?
4. He’s looking to succeed . . . finding and fulfilling God’s plan
A wife of noble character is her husband’s crown, but a disgraceful wife is like decay in the bones. [Proverbs 12:4]
A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies. [Proverbs 5:31:10].

The Needed Response: Celebration!
Celebrate more than accomplishments.
Celebrate the fact of relationship.

Remember husbands and wives:
  • You can do what I cannot.
  • I can do what you cannot.
  • Together we can do something beautiful for God.

Thanks to Dr. Keith Newman for essential teachings in this post.

Next Thursday's Timeless Truths Series: Kids, Whose Idea Was This?

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